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[quote=Anonymous]I didn’t back down about the unfairness and unsustainability of it. I kept asking for help in a nice voice, things like “can you please handle X while I handle y?” I started having conversations about trivial decisions out loud and asked for help deciding. I wrote down every task that had to happen to keep our house running and suggested a schedule to distribute fairly and asked for feedback. I was open and vulnerable about my inability to handle it all and begged for help to avoid a breakdown. I gently defended the necessity of “unnecessary” things like purchasing children’s clothing at regular intervals and bringing small gifts to the children of relatives when visiting. It was exhausting and took years, but it did work. I also make a pretty high income and work hard, and I know my spouse did not want me to stop working or work very little, so I think that helped. [/quote]
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