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[quote=Anonymous]MIL moving in to memory care next week.  Fantastic facility and she should have been there a few years ago. The staff are advising my FIL to tell her that he is bringing her for lunch, but then actually leave her there after lunch.  They are also advising no contact with her for at least a week. 
I work in health care (not geriatrics) and can see why they have this position on move-ins. My question: is this standard procedure for facility move-in with a dementia patient?  
Some info- the facility itself is 5 minutes from their current home, MIL is 83 and has had dementia dx for 8 yrs but the past year has really started declining. She has had home care for the past year 5 days/week for basic activities of daily life and housekeeping. FIL is 85 and mentally competent but physically not really able to help her with showering, etc.

Also, she had lunch there a few weeks ago, engaged in many of the activities, and has the idea that she will be moving in here at some point, but says she doesn't want to move in.  To add another wrinkle, she actually managed this facility's sister facility (down the street- this facility is less than 3 years old) back in the 90s. This is not uncharted waters for her. 
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