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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you are describing what a lot of interracial couples were told a generation ago: why would you do that to your children, your choices are making it so hard for them, blah blah blah.  That's just fear talking and you need to get some support to let it go.  Yes, you are part of a minority group, gay people, and you didn't choose that and your life may have been harder for it.  Yes, your children are part of a minority group, children of gay people, and they didn't choose that and their lives may be harder for it.  That doesn't mean that the answer is to deny who you love or deny yourself the experience of parenting.

Remind yourself that every person and every child experiences hardships and you can never assume that a different outcome would have been a better one.  I'm a child of straight parents who were abusive and dysfunctional and never protected or stood up for me.  My child is white and has two parents of different genders, and she is being raised by someone managing PTSD and anxiety.  We can't control who we are and we do not need to flog ourselves for having the audacity to be outside the normative ideal and still choose to have families.  Hope that this is the hardest thing your child has to deal with and leave it at that.[/quote]

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