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[quote=Anonymous]I think it's possible to have balance without being punitive for things outside of their control.

My parents set clear expectations that they would help me cover the tuition/board at college (I had financial aid and loans as well) but any extras were entirely on me to provide through my various jobs.  So if you're just paying your daughter's credit card bill while she's in college and not setting spending limits, you have unfortunately set a precedent. The time to cut that off is now.

So there's a very different situation between someone who lives at home, has a job, and buys their own stuff versus someone who isn't working and just puts down mom and dad's credit card for everything.

You also have to learn to find ways to make money.  I babysat regularly through law school and even occasionally when I was getting started as a lawyer.  It made the difference in being able to afford to eat out occasionally. So going home and doing no work is an option.  Perfect jobs rarely just fall in your lap.

So I don't believe in all or nothing because I graduated in 2009 and saw the struggle of finding a job in a recession with my classmates.  But I do also firmly believe in boundaries and requiring an adult kid who lives at home to pull their weight around the house and cover their own spending.[/quote]

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