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[quote=Anonymous]You can hire a geriatric to advocate for her, keep track of medical issues, take her to appointments and communicate with you with her permission. It's expensive, but they know the system better. Usually they keep a big binder with all medical information and add to it accordingly. They tend to know the right questions to ask as medical appointments and what can and cannot be requested at AL.

Keep in mind if you move her near you, so much is up in the air and what will happen with your life as you know it. I do know cases where it was a relief and it was easier to include mom and visit and mom remained gentle and kind.

My mother became very needy and volatile and she was no peach before aging. Siblings seemed to think their job was to call me with commandments. Even when an emergency happened with a sister visiting, she still thought I should be there too. It didn't matter that I handled dozens of emergencies ALONE, the expectation turned into I should drop everything for mom at all times and my health/spouse/kids/job/sanity didn't matter. So even moving mom near, we ended hiring out. Let me tell you, what i did for free is worth A LOT of $$$$. Nobody thanked me for the years of coordinating care and being emergency contact I did, but wow did they complain when someone had to be paid to do it.[/quote]

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