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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry OP. This is a hard one.

Does your wife work and contribute meaningfully to HH income?  What is she spending excessively on? (clothes, house, vacations, etc?)

Before leaping to divorce and breaking up your kids' home, what have you done to rein this in?[/quote]

She does work but I make the bulk of our income.

We have 3.5 year old twins. We both want what’s best for their future but my wife goes overboard.

Excessive spending

- Most expensive daycare 
- Most expensive preschool 
- An expensive I caved and bought 
- A new car 
- expensive activities for the kids 
- A tutor for the kids ( no joke)
- wasting hundreds each shopping trip 
- always purchases random crap she sees online

This is just the tip of the iceberg. She didn’t use to be this way. Motherhood has made her very competitive. [/quote]

This post is a huge red flag for me…about you.

Because it shouldn’t be relevant whether the preschool is the “most expensive” or the activity is “expensive.” The only question is if it fits in your budget. If it doesn’t, it’s too expensive even if it’s the cheapest preschool and the activity is the cheapest activity.

I don’t think any couple can be happy if you’re trying to agree on what’s “expensive” or “reasonable” or whatever. People are going to make different calls within a budget. It’s being within the budget that you have to agree on, and you have to agree on the long term plan that is the foundation for the budget. [/quote]

+1.  OP has the backbone of a wet noodle. No wonder his wife is running all over him with the spending. Big lack of respect for someone who constantly caves to what she wants.

Harsh, but that's the truth, OP. [/quote]

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