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[quote=Anonymous]I have been through this with my own parent and a close friend's parent and in both cases eventually the staff had to explain that it's OK to live your life. You visit. You show your love. You are allowed to take care of your kids and get exercise and go to your job too especially if hospice is lasting longer than expected. What would your parents want? Would they want you feeling so torn or would they want you to visit but also lead your life?

My friend's family made sure her dad was never alone and this want for over a month and they were getting burned out. Eventually the took the advice of hospice and have him breaks and that is when passed peacefully.

My family is more dysfunctional and people were throwing guilt trips and shame right and left, and sure enough in every way possible dad made it clear he was ready and finally when he got alone time he passed peacefully.

Often obituaries say the person died "surrounded by loved ones" but really them mean surrounded by love. I was told it is so rare for someone to pass with a circle of people around and that's totally fine. Many people somehow "chose" to pass away alone.[/quote]

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