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[quote=Anonymous]We're four years TTC and we went through this in the beginning. For my first pregnancy (loss at 11 wks) DH never came to appointments and he acted like I was a major downer for being tired all the time. He would get mad because he was "stuck" in the house with me on the couch. Then when we lost the first baby and two more after that, and I was fat and exhausted and just feeling literally scraped out in every possible way, he would get angry that I wasn't just bouncing back and wanting to party.

We went to therapy and DH admitted to the therapist (a man) that since I'm a woman, this is just my lot in life and he could not understand what all the fuss was about. The therapist looked straight a him and told him that was a sexist statement and if he didn't straighten up, he was going to lose his wife. I'm not sure if therapists are supposed to do stuff like that but it worked and I'm ever so grateful. DH has been an angel ever since. He goes to appointments with me (even monitoring), he gives me my shots, and he does all the paperwork. Our deal is that I'm doing the parts that only I can do, and he does everything else. It sort of works out that I do most of the communication with the nurses so I am doing a lot of the appointment setting, but he is there for all of it. He even gets upset now if I don't include him on something.

Anyway, I highly recommend talking these things out with a qualified infertility therapist. TTC can be a long haul and it's definitely better to not let stuff like this fester.    [/quote]

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