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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 10 year old is very similar, though he does have at least a few birthday parties each year. But not a ton of planned playdates. Now that he's old enough, he's more likely to just go to the basketball court nearby with a couple of neighbor boys when they get home from school.  We get along with the boys' parents, but we are generally not interacting to plan their get togethers. I much prefer not being involved. The engineered playdate thing has always felt like another thing for me to coordinate, so I usually just don't bother. I would rather my son talk to his friends directly and plan things, and just ask me. I don't get the sense other boys are doing a ton of planned playdates. If they live near other kids they play outside. The constantly having a friend over seems like something that only children or very social kids do. But not everyone is like that. I'm sure it depends on the school community. We are at a relatively large public with families from all over the world.

One thing my son has gotten really into is video games online with friends. He is on the shy side so I think this type of socializing really works for him. I don't love it but at least he is interacting and I don't have to deal with other parents.

If you are a mom, I wouldn't project your experience socializing as a girl onto your son. I think girls at this age are much more focused on always having sleepovers and a friend to hang out with.[/quote]

I don't understand the not coordinating with other parents. Does your son just have blanket permission to go somewhere after school, and these boys do too? I would expect a text chain (or would have to begin one) to have kids play together after school.[/quote]

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