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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am headed towards a divorce at the age of 45. Two kids and husband is showing signs of being bipolar - he leaves us then comes back, wants a divorce then doesn't, stops answering his phone, etc. Any advice you wish you had before you went through a divorce (ex. wait a year to move, I wish we had approached the kids this way, etc). I am at a loss as to how to go about this and am feeling really overwhelmed. [/quote]

Mine played these headgames for a while, too. It was some sort of weird control strategy, with the end result being him near-completely out of control on all fronts.

Decide what you want and advocate for it. Don't consider his needs/wants; he'll do plenty of that for himself. Prioritize yourself and your children. Physically separate as soon as reasonably possible; the rest is much easier to do when you're not up under each other, causing regular tension and strife. Get a plan together, tell the kids together, and then stick to it. It was very damaging to my kids that their dad came back and then left again, and then came back... Be done, put your foot down, don't give in to pressure/manipulations. [/quote]

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