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[quote=Anonymous]My parents got similarly antsy about stopping financial support when I hadn't yet finished my degree (and I didn't take any extra time).  I think they were just ready to be done financially and had some horror stories stuck in their heads about others who did fail to launch.  Their attitude added a ton of stress to our relationship and felt like they didn't trust me to follow through and be successful.

I'd let your daughter know that your financial support is hard to manage and ask what she thinks she can do to help more.  Work with her.  Talk to her.  Don't just tell her you're no longer paying certain bills. She is taking on significant financial responsibilities with $7k in student loans.  She is working hard.  She is being responsible.  She doesn't need ultimatums.

Then let her know how excited you are for her to start her career after graduation--she'll need to fully support herself then.  It sounds like she's chosen a super responsible major where she should make a good income and have good job options.  You shouldn't micromanage what internship she takes or doesn't take.  She's an adult and *should* pivot to a different employer if she can and her current internship isn't somewhere she wants to work.  It has to be up to her to find employment.  That's up to her.   Butt out.[/quote]

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