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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was the kid in this scenario.  I don't know why people seem to think it doesn't cause issues.  I had a ton of guilt feeling like I was the cause my parents stayed miserable for so long.  Then I was angry at them for making me live in that environment.  It was just so unpleasant, the animosity was obvious.  Then I was resentful of the stress it added on to my freshman year and the difficulty it added on to an already difficult transition in my life.

I didn't go home my entire first year, not even for Christmas.

It took quite awhile for my parents and I to repair our relationships.   [/quote]
Glad you finally matured enough to realize it isn’t all about you all the time. If it was that difficult for you as a young adult, your parents likely made the calculation that it would have been even more difficult for you at a younger age.

OP, shut up. No one decides to divorce after raising kids on a whim.[/quote]

Of course I matured.  But OP was so flippant in her post and I've seen other people post where they make it sound like waiting until their kid goes off to college avoids all problems, and it doesn't.  [/quote]

I know it doesn’t avoid all problems.  I am trying to figure out how to do this in a way that does minimize the trauma of it in an unselfish a way as I can.  I have been in a miserable marriage for many years and was basically gas lit to stay in it.  My spouse would stay in the marriage because I make 90% of the money and manage all of the heavy lifting.  She stopped participating in the marriage a long time ago and has made it clear with her actions she isn’t going to change.  The relationship is completely one sided, I make the money, pay the bills, cook for myself, do my own laundry, we have no intimacy,  I grocery shop for the house, do quite a bit of the kid organization and management stuff. [/quote]

I'm sorry but you will not get sympathy here. The women are locked in in solidarity and they won't believe you. They will say *there is more to the story....". The wives here are so perfect [/quote]

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