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[quote=Anonymous]I’m unsure of what to do in this situation and talking to my son about it gives me so much anxiety.

My 9 year old is struggling with how he feels about himself. He constantly says things like his friends don’t like him and will mention how a close friend is more interested in someone else now.

I’ve spoken to both teachers about it and they say he’s a joy, spreads positivity in the classroom and very well liked with many friends. He’s been on the same sports team for two different sports with about a dozen of the boys for several years in his grade at school. He is invited to about 25 birthday parties a year, often small ones with just a few kids and does well in different groups of kids. He’s had the same best friend since he was 2. He’s invited to playdates a few times a week. We travel with a few of the familes for spring break. Many of the moms have told me their boys love him and consider him one of their child’s best friends.

Everytime we talk about it he breaks down and cries and says no one likes him. He really struggles with small slights. For instance we had two friends spend the night and he felt sad that they were getting a long well and he felt like the third wheel because they wandered off for a few minutes together and were talking about jokes in their classroom (different class). I heard him tell them he didn’t want them to come over again if they were going to leave him out. We talked about it and I said it’s a very normal feeling to feel left out or the third wheel and it’s something we all feel as humans but you cannot act on it and get upset with friends or push them away. I’m not sure what to do but it feels like social anxiety. I think he’s a very sensitive kid and that’s why he’s well liked because he’s careful what he says and tries to be inclusive but he just feels everything so much. Any advice dealing with this? 
I’m having a really hard time talking to him about it because I have anxiety myself so it’s triggering. [/quote]

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