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[quote=Anonymous]😆 I believe AI is PP!

I’ve been married nearly 30 years, 3DC (all young adults) and had both sets of grandparents live locally.

My advice: decide if you want any of the grandparents to be counted on for childcare in the form of FT PT daycare. Fairly easy choice for me (and my parents) because I was a SAHM but my ILs were disappointed and honestly angry that I didn’t *need* them nearly 24/7.

Set your boundaries early. Ask the grandparents what they would like and expect. My parents were elderly (and a full decade older than ILs) and both certainly would help on occasion but it was only ever at their house and when DC were babies, no transport or outside activities.

My ILs wanted to babysit but I learned that they were unreliable and refused to adhere to any schedule or any instructions. So they’d have my toddler for a weekend and happily report that they’d had so much fun that there was no time for her naps, she didn’t need any. I’d then have to bat clean up so to speak and have a fussy, cranky and exhausted toddler.

It got to be easier just to hire a teen sitter rather than to drive my kids to my parents’ or ILs’ houses.[/quote]

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