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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If they agree to visit senior residences, pay for a three night trial stay but tell your parents it is free.  Use the time to have professional cleaners in their home.

Eventually, they will like a place enough and their home can be sold.

The senior residences can feel like a vacation. Each will cater to your folks, offering their favorite desserts and seating them with nice people.

Both my mother and mother in law did this.[/quote]

Op here. My mother's mother was in a senior's residence and my mother hated even visiting her there. She vowed when my grandmother died that she would never step foot in one again. She has zero interest in anything related to moving, she plans to stay in the house for another 20 years! Her plan is to just sleep on the couch if she reaches the point that she can't handle stairs. She does not intend to care for my father, he can go to a home, she will stay in the house. She has told him he is welcome to go wherever he wants if he doesn't want to stay with her. They have been married for 60 years. I used to go over and help a lot but now she gets a little paranoid / suspicious that I am doing something so when I visit, she just wants me to stay in the family room / kitchen area and be a guest and she will make me  coffee / tea. [/quote]

OP I have a mother like this. The only difference is she was refusing memory care for dad who desperately needed it, but decided I should abandon the family I created and take over with him. I had to get professionals involved with her because she was so irrational and hostile with me.[/quote]

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