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[quote=Anonymous]My mom has dementia and is in assisted living since January. Half the time she hates the place. Everyone is old and she doesn't belong. Half the time she loves the place.

Three weeks after moving to AL, she didn't want to be there and drove home (1 hour away), forgot she had even moved to AL once she was home, and I brought her back.

I didn't bring her car back to mom because I figure there would just be a repeat.

At first she didn't really ask for her car, then we would make excuses about taking her. Now, she's fixated and is calling the police and insurance and insists my sister stole the car.

Insurance is now saying a doctor needs to verify she can drive or she won't be covered.

Please help me with what I can say to mom. I've tried excuses, said car isn't starting (sure that's true at this point), told the truth about insurance wanting doctor's note. She is just enraged. I get it!

AL told me to make excuses about car being broken down, but that didn't work. They also said to say mom could get car back once she gets more settled in.

I'm not sure what the kindest, less stressful thing is to say to mom.

It's harder, because she forgets what I say (and forgets she's repeatedly calling the insurance company), but she is focused on the theft of her car and wanting it back.[/quote]

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