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[quote=Anonymous]I separated from XH due to emotional and financial abuse and isolation. Long story, I was and continue to be very wronged. I was an excellent SAHM for many years and my kids had a solid foundation of love and active parenting.

After I separated, I got a job. Due to the financial abuse and XH's manipulation and lies, I ended up moving to an area I could afford and is closer to my workplace and farther from the kids. I still have them every weekend and a weekday dinner, but I let them live with their dad M-F so they could keep their same schools. Dad said he would move to the area I moved to (which is why I agreed to move) but that turned out to be a lie.

XH has been extremely aggressive in divorce (divorce abuse: excessive filings and refusal to budge in mediation, keeping the kids on weekends he wants them without my approval). As a result, the process has dragged on for 2 years so far.

At this point the kids are used to this schedule and these homes. I had asked for increased time and joint custody but am starting to wonder if I should just give up. Kids seem ok because they still see me regularly, I go to any evening school events I can and am in regular contact with the one who is old enough to have a phone.

XH is the type who will *always* take more and has no boundaries and so I have to protect against him. Even if I'm ok with just weekends since kids are all doing ok, my fear is if I agree to keep things status quo, he'll then try to move them since he's now primary physical parent.

I don't know how I ended up like this and it is very hard for me. I gave up a career to be a mom and have worked hard to support myself with no financial assistance from family or government and it all seems to have worked against me in the divorce process. [/quote]

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