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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My in laws moved to be closer to one set of kids so they could help out with and spend time with the grandkids. They're glad they did it - but like PP said, that family is a lot busier than they expected, and also don't want to spend all their time with the grandparents.

Luckily they chose a 55+ community to buy in and have made a lot of friends there.

But yeah, just have realistic expectations if you move near your kids. And be prepared to make your own friends.

That said I wish my parents would move near me! They don't want to leave their friends.[/quote]

This is what my parents did, moving near my sister. They were very involved in babysitting and helping my sister in other ways. They made new friends in their golf course community. But, after about 10 years a lot of those friends gradually moved away to move near their kids as the health problems started.  IME, once people are 80+ you really want to be near your kids. My dad is gone and 83 year old mom lives with my sister.

My inclination when we retire is to stay in DC so we can continue to spend time with our friends and involved in organizations that already part of our lives. When there is a clear reason to move near kids, we'd do that (them being settled, wanting to be more involved with grandkids, our needing more help). At this point I see no reason to move elsewhere unless it's to live near family. But, for now, most of my family is in the DC area.[/quote]

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