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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm sorry.  I had a miscarriage from my ectopic in May.  For weeks I just did not feel better, then the grief lifted a bit.  With an ectopic, it takes weeks for the pregnancy hormone to leave your body.  I can honestly say that I felt a mood boost when I finally got to zero.

Even my best friend did not understand my continued grief, even though she's been with me through my entire ttc process, at 3 weeks or so after I told her I was sad and she said "still"?  She's even had a miscarriage--but when she was young and was able to get pregnant on the next try.  Who forgets a lost child in 3 weeks?

People may not understand but on ttc forums, you will find a lot of validation for your feelings.

I haven't forgotten, and Christmas is going to be REALLY rough, because that is when my baby would have been born.  And there isn't another one in me to replace him/her.

I think about that baby every day, but it's a lot less painful than those first few weeks, when I cried every day.

I highly recommend finding a therapist.  The ttc process does not get easier, and while she couldn't reduce the grief--you just have to feel that--working with my therapist has helped me to rein in my emotions in other areas of my life, which helps tremendously.  Now, when I get anxious about work, or relationships, the CBT techniques we've used in sessions kick in and keep me from succumbing to irrational emotions, even while under the influence of fertility drugs.

I am so sorry.  Lost Pregnancies is a horrible club of which to be a member.[/quote]

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