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[quote=Anonymous]To help with the busyness, look for social opportunities that would make your life easier, and share those with others.

I restarted my social life in a new city through a weekly potluck.  The kids entertain each other, adults rotate keeping an eye on them, and the rest of us drink more red wine than strictly necessary.  Acquaintances started here turned into friendships and some of those into close ones.  For single parents, a dinner club arrangement can work well - two or more families who alternate making dinner for everyone and hanging out.  I have one family here with whom I alternate picking the kids up, starting homework and making dinner.  The "off" parent gets a little me-time, or can have a drink with someone else, and then has dinner and a chat waiting.

Even introverts need to get out of the house.  Sit down with the paper and look for moments of beauty, of chaos, things that seems like they might be comfortable, things that seem unfamiliar.  Go to lots of different kinds of events, events that seem weird or boring or not your thing at all.  Go to different churches, even if you're not religious.  What I'm talking about here is reintroducing yourself to humanity.  Go hiking, volunteer, join a garden; explore your loneliness and perhaps you can make it into skill at being alone.  Read transporting books in public.  Make the most of the time you have, even if you would rather be with someone.  Fill your cup to brimming, so you have something to share.

Find someone to help with OKC.  Some people just suck at describing themselves in a way that will speak to the kind of people who will appreciate them.

But really - REALLY - please get back into counseling.  You need one ally in your corner at all times.  It makes a difference.  Do it.  Eventually you might not need it, but let that happen when it happens.  [/quote]

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