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You're right--I'm not sure I would do other than maybe drive her to see her husband in the hospital or bring her food.

Also, thank you all for your kind replies. I have a lot of emotional baggage with this aunt that I'm trying to unpack in therapy beyond her complicities in my childhood trauma.

Basically for my entire life, she would tell me that I was the only person who loved her, only one could make her smile, she needed my kids (who she has met only once) and me to come up to Boston to visit to give her hugs or she would be miserable, she needed to hear my voice because nothing else made her happy, etc. And, f I didn't do those things exactly when she needed them, it must mean that I don't love her and no one loves her.  All the while, doing very little to help herself.

So yeah, lots of things tangled in this, and your objective opinions are very helpful.[/quote]

So she was highly manipulative and inappropriate with you as a child? I would definitely have major boundaries and not get sucked into interactions with her or caring for her. If you love her despite all this, love her with very long arms/at a distance. I would simply alert APS, even though it sounds like you tried them already. See if they can check in on her for free monthly. One day she may be so desperate that she opens the door for them or she may prefer to self-destruct. I would not allow her to share you number for emergencies.[/quote]

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