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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband is very, very good at making male friends.  He basically asks people to play his sport (tennis) with him.  Or if they like something else, like biking, he will go and do it with them.  He has made a lot of friends this way.  I have noticed that he takes a lot of interest in what other men have to say and likes to ask other men for advice and likes their opinion on things.  If they have a hobby or something they are really interested in he will listen very attentively and be very admiring.  I think he makes other men feel good about themselves.  There's no weirdness to it either, he's just a friendly guys guy.[/quote]

NP. This is how my husband is, too. The common activities aren't sports but he is in a couple of community bands and has met friends that way, and he voluneers extensively for an extracurricular academic organization and meets people through that as well. He doesn't necessarily have a lot of time to go "do things with the guys" kind of stuff, but he definitely has both male and female friends.

And he proactively reached out, a few years ago, to an old friend from back in high school days. Now they Zoom a few times each month (the friend lives overseas) and just chat about the news, their families, their jobs, etc. They have been great about catching up and staying in touch consistently, so they have gotten to be even better friends.

Like the PP's husband, my DH is good at listening to other people and asking questions about their interests.

So, OP, I'd suggest you join some new activities, organizations, sports, volunteer groups --whatever genuinely interests and engages you [i]anyway[/i]. Then you are likelier to meet men who share your interests and your values, too. Good basis for friendships. Also, if you have or had old friends you know are around, it doesn't hurt to reach out and say you'd like to catch up. Doing that really paid off for my DH with a renewed guy friendship. [/quote]

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