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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because they're used to the old you. Ingrained dynamics between people are really hard to break. That's what happens when adult siblings return to the family home for the Holidays, and ancient rivalries and hierarchies resurface like no time has passed at all.

You will actually have to enact severe consequences for them to believe the new you, OP.

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Everyone is used to me giving in, taking responsibility, taking on the work. I can't do it anymore. How do I get people to step up? Mostly the issue is H, when I tried to set boundaries, he started becoming aggressive and absuive (verbally, but still). I am thinking divorce is the only solution. It's been a year.[/quote]

^also, I can't just let my mom with dementia go without care. No one else is helping though. Not financially, not logistically, not with actual care work. No one even wants to meet with her anymore, forget about taking care. Not my sister, not her own brother, no one. My dad died years ago.[/quote]

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