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[quote=Anonymous]My 7th grader is a pretty typical student.  He knows our expectations and the importance of school.  He is an A/B student with the occasional C.  At the beginning of this school year I got an email from Teacher A that my ds was being disruptive in class and talking too much.  At back to school night I heard from several teachers that my ds talks too much in class.  One of the problems is that 2 of his best buddies are in all his classes with him.  We talked about our expectations and how serious this was to us and so on.  At p/t conferences we heard glowing reports from every teacher that the talking problem is no longer an issue, he cares about his grades, he is a joy to have in class and so on.  Teacher A responded to the question "how has his behavior been, have you noticed a change for the better" with "it's gotten better".  Teacher A teaches the class he least enjoys.

So, Teacher A played a game (subject related) with the class and said whoever won the game would receive a homework pass.  There were a several winners, one of them my son.  My son said him and one of the other kids did  not receive their homework pass, everyone else did.  He was venting to me about it and pretty bothered saying it was not fair.  At that time I just listened and didn't say much about it, I think I was in the middle of something at that time.

The following day after school he tells me he asked Teacher A when he will receive his homework pass and he said Teacher A said "when you start paying attention in class".  I asked my son if he had been being disrespectful or disruptive in class.  He says no, everyone's been doing the same thing so he doesn't know why he is being singled out.  He also swore that he has been paying attention and participating and he was very irritated and kept saying it's not fair.

I am fully open to the idea that my son may be reverting back to the beginning of the school year with too much talking in this class.   However, I’m not sure that I agree with not giving him the homework pass.  The rule was if you win the game you get the pass.  My husband thinks it’s totally unfair and we should email the teacher.  Of course when I asked him if he wanted to compose an email he said “not really”.  
Would you email the teacher?  Or use this as a lesson for your kid… once your teacher thinks of you as a troublemaker there is the possibility that you will be looked at first when trouble happens (even if you are innocent) and there is the possibility that you will be judged more harsh.  For example, one time last year he sneezed in class during a test and said the teacher wrote his name on the board (that means you lose recess). He was baffled and said other people sneeze and don’t get their name written on the board.  I told him it was probably because he had disruptive behavior in the past so now any little thing he does is going to be looked at as if he is trying on purpose to be disruptive.   Would you use this instance to reinforce the same type of lesson?  Or is this really unfair treatment that I should bring to the teachers attention?  I've been teaching him to handle his own school affairs and have been putting forth a lot of effort to be hands off (letting him go to his teachers about missed work or poor grades). It’s been going well so that’s another reason I’m hesitating about contacting the teacher myself.

Interested in what others would  do in this situation.
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