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[quote=Anonymous]Well, I just always "knew" that my sister and I were adopted...I don't remember a time when we were told.  Also, we're a different race from our parents, so at some point, it would've been quite obvious  :wink:  My parents at the time didn't know any of our adoption history and they were forthright about that.  Just like I would imagine bio kids like to hear their birth story, we loved to hear our mom talk about how she and my dad got the call about getting twins when they were only expecting one and how my dad went into shock at hearing that, as well as what it was like when they went to the airport to pick us up and how my sister peed on my dad, etc.  She was ahead of her time and made us what are now known as lifebooks, which we liked to look at.  We also had the added complication of being an international adoption, so my parents had an additional element of culture/heritage to weave in.

I also adopted my first child.  She is still young- 4- but we keep pictures of her foster family in her room and send letters to them.  We talk about how she was adopted, just like her aunt and me and the boy across the street, and how she was in her birth mom's belly while her brother was in my belly. We talk about how loved she was and lucky to have three moms.  She's asked a couple of tough questions that I tried to answer without giving more (age-inappropriate) details.  We read books as well, but honestly, I'm not sure she really is old enough to truly understand adoption and what it means for her to have been adopted.

I don't know if we're doing too much or too little.  While i know each adoptee is different, I try to keep in mind how I as an adoptee liked things. I don't want to push the adoption thing too much because that's not the only thing that defines me and I think some parents can go overboard with things.[/quote]

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