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[quote=Anonymous]Redirect; lie but never directly contradict.

My mom is so far gone now that she doesn’t remember the day, or even hour, before.

Here’s a story: mom has made a male friend in memory care and they hang out a lot. No hanky panky but she takes naps with him sometimes and they always eat together. The other day his wife visited (tbh I didn’t know he was married either). My mom was horrified and shocked to discover he was married! We talked extensively about it and she was so angry and felt humiliated and decided it was over.

The next day I visited her and they were hang out and she was telling fine what a sweetheart he was. She had no recall of the day before.

I have no idea how his wife feels about things either but the further dementia gets the more people live in the moment.  The other thing I’ll say is that occasionally my mom will talk about wanting to leave, go home (home being across the country) etc. increasingly when I take her out even for a meal she becomes very disoriented when she returns to memory care and wondering why she is there. Wanting to go home etc. I am increasingly visiting her there rather than taking her out. [/quote]

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