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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP.  I have anxiety about hosting (in my home) and didn’t come from a home that hosted.  The thought sounds lovely to me and the fear of rejection (no one accepting) or judgement means it doesn’t happen.  I’m working on it and I’m older and am unsure of how to change really. I am divorced, no longer live in my former beautiful stunning home.   I live in a smaller 2 bedroom apartment etc. My dc is with me biweekly.

Also I don’t drink and many expect booze and have a bar with an assortment of drinks in it.  Unsure how to buy wine if I’ve not tasted it.  Bought a bottle to take to a social invite that was byob recently.  It could have tasted like vinegar for all I know.

People invite me for a while and then they stop.  They likely think I’m rude.  I’m actually paralyzed.  I don’t know you well enough to tell you this.  [/quote]

FYI - no one is forcing you to invite people to your home or even spend money on them. You could initiate an outing to a local event like a fall farm festival or Christmas lights, where it’s pretty understood that everyone pays their way. The point is to show that you actually want to spend time with someone vs. appearing to reluctantly accept their invites.

But it sounds like you’ve got a lot going on, so totally reasonable to preserve your mental bandwidth for important things, which socializing is not. I would never expect a single parent to host.[/quote]

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