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[quote=Anonymous]I think divorce is totally ok and if people want an open marriage, go for it.

But I think it's funny/interesting when people who struggle with monogamy are like "I just think monogamy is unrealistic/unnatural/stupid." You are projecting your own issues with your own marriage onto everyone else.

My spouse and I have been together and monogamous for 20 years. Yes there are downsides to monogamy and we've dealt with sexual stagnation, uneven interest, and boredom. But we've discussed it and, for us, the upsides of monogamy outweigh those issues, and we are both willing to work through those challenges. We like that monogamy simplifies our relationship, creates a very stable home life for our kids, and facilitates trust and commitment by ensuring that when we do go through difficult times, we turn to one another for solutions instead of reaching outside the marriage.

We both have friends, hobbies, and interests outside of each other. We are not one another's sole source or f emotional.support or fulfillment.

For us, monogamy is one of the big selling points of marriage. We've also been lucky in some ways, especially in recent years as our libidos have both dipped at the same time. But even when it's been hard, it's been worth it, and you be never thought "oh this is unreasonable." It's reasonable for us.

But it's okay if it's not for everyone and I don't judge people who make other choices unless their choices hurt people.[/quote]

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