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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Any time you look different, people will comment. It's up to you to not take everything negatively, because most of the comments aren't actually ill-intentioned. Kids in particular go right up to the line and beyond when they're ribbing each other. The line between bullying and banter can be really difficult to identify.

My daughter has a very boyish female best friend: very short hair cut, pants, never skirts or dresses, mostly grey, red or black colors, etc. Sometimes someone says "Oh, you look so much like a smaller version of your big brother", and she takes it good-naturedly, since it's perfectly true. When she debuted her new hair cut, of course kids at school made lesbian or trans jokes - but kids tease each other all the time, and it lasted a couple of days. People moved on.

Another example: when my son was little he chose green sneakers with pink and purple stripes. He received lots of compliments. One father on the playground was a little confused by his choice of footwear, but he never said anything to us: when his kid asked why my son was wearing "girl shoes" - he replied it was a little odd and that he didn't know. Oh well. We didn't mind!

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I mean, there’s a difference between a child telling another child, “those are girl shoes” and an adult employee stopping a child to tell them they should grow out their hair because girls don’t wear short hair (which is historically false, most of my 50/60 year old something female friends have short hair).[/quote]

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