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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm in an open (Platonic) marriage for reasons specific to our situation. It works for us, but we're in the very specific situation of 1) sex between us is off the table for reasons that are unchangeable and 2) we still love each other very much and are remain essentially soulmates outside of sex. Do you still love him? Do you still want to spend your life with him? Those are questions worth answering.

I'm confused by the bracelet (it doesn't seem likely that he's wearing a DILF bracelet to pick up women), but I'll focus on the cheating. Cheating is a bigger issue though. Cheating wasn't part of our story. It was a decision made before anyone went outside the marriage for sex, after a lot of talking and therapy. I think if it starts as a way to excuse cheating its a lot more likely to lead to resentment and fail.[/quote]

THIS - Yes, I do love him and hate the idea of not sharing a life together. But, more as life partners, no sex. I'm not attracted to him anymore in a sexual way. (maybe this is how I'm justifying the cheating)

I didn't mention that we've been married for nearly 20 years. We have built a life together and it isn't easy to give it all up. We have shared friends, are very close with each other's families, etc. It's a crappy situation to deal with and I'm trying to figure it out :( [/quote]

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