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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand the desire to back off and let him try to handle it and then your desire to take away a privilege when he didn’t follow through.

However, did you warn him ahead of time that missing the ski trip would be the consequence if he didn’t turn in assignments? Did you just bring it up last night and then follow thru today with no real opportunity to catch up? It seems a bit harsh if the consequences hadn’t been discussed in advance which may have escalated his response.

Now he knows, so help him catch up this weekend and tell him you’ll be checking again on Thursday. [/quote]

Fair warning is the biggest thing. I would have sat down with him the night before (or several times this week), pulled up the grades and talked about what he'd done to catch up and if it was enough to justify going on the ski trip.  This weekend you need to set a plan with him for what he needs to do to go next week.  Make it fair.  He may not be able to make up everything in one week, but there should be significant progress.[/quote]

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