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[quote=Anonymous]David and Sarah date briefly in high school, both are raised by single moms and in fairly low SES homes. Both start working in labour type jobs after high school. They reconnect a few years later, date, move in together, have a child and are together another 3 years. Relationship ends. Both move back in with their moms who live 5 minutes from each other, 50/50 custody from day 1. David and Sarah are cordial but not friendly.

2-3 years go by. Sarah is now living in an apartment near her mom. David has met Amy and moved in with her as she owns a house. They get married. House is about a 30 minute drive from where Sarah and the grandmas live. David drives child to school during his weeks, child goes to grandmas after school and is then picked up and brought home. Amy comes from a wealthy family and Amy's family embrace David, the child, and David's mother. They are included in family vacations, celebrations etc. Amy's father offers to cover expenses so David can go get a degree and have a better career which he does. David, the child and David's mother now have a much higher SES due to generosity of Amy's family and David and Amy now both have good paying jobs (and have 2 kids together). Relationship between David and Sarah remains cordial

When child is in 7th grade, Sarah decides to move out into the country and gets a small place that is about a 1-1.5 hour drive to child's school and the grandmas. So now child has a 30 minute commute during dad's weeks and a 1-1.5 hour commute during mom's weeks. Child usually goes to each grandmas after school during both weeks until picked up by parents. David suggests that they move child to a school near his house for high school as this is also actually a shorter drive for Sarah. Child on board. Sarah refuses. Wants child to stay at same school and to spend afternoons with her mother. Also feels David already has unfair advantages and shouldn't get school near him too. Relationship between them gets strained. So child stays at the school that isn't near either parent.

Child is now in 9th. Is very unhappy with the 50/50 situation. Has a lot of toys and friends and fun at dad's house, finds mom's house out in the country to be boring and doesn't want to go or stay there on weekends. Also really wants to change schools to go to same school as his friends do (near his dads house) and tired of long commute and being at grandmas every day. Wants to do a recreational activity / sport and mom doesn't want to drive in on weekends to take him to this. Mom feels dad is turning child against her by making his life too good when at his house. Now everyone is unhappy. No one is sure of what a 'fair' solution is. [/quote]

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