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[quote=Anonymous]You know their finances. Siblings need to be on the same page. We did the research - went and visited places, knew exactly when move-in date could happen. Narrowed the list to 3. Took the non-denentia parent to look and listened to determine the best option. Don't think we asked, "do you want to move to this one?" Do not ask questions where the answer can be no. Parents were use to going away for the Winter (only with monumental help from family which was not sustainable)  When there was resistance to AL we said, "maybe just for the Winter."

Get them placed first. The house gets sold later, if financially that can work. They get moved with only what they need. The rest can wait. Before moving my Dad (the one w/dementia) we had already set-up: his favorite chair, snacks on a table next to him, a huge (new) big screen tv turned to the golf channel. This is before he walked in for the first time. He walked-in and settled-in.

Once there for a few days, they liked the socialization. After a month or two they forgot that they ever had any objections - they thought it was their idea. They had this great idea ... Family visited almost daily. I could go on and on, but that's writing enough's for now. As I age, I could see choosing the AL where they lived. It was a good place with good staff. Several places were. [/quote]

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