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[quote=Anonymous]Do you live in different cities?

I am the childless sibling with two sisters.

Here are things my parents used to complain about when visiting my sisters:

-Having to sleep on a pull out couch in the play room and the kids run in at 6am and wake them up. This is when three kids each had their own bedroom and they could have doubled up the kids and let my parents sleep in a real bed with a bedroom with a door.

-Kids not saying thank you for things (like gifts)

-Kids ordering them around. "Grandmama, bring me my Santa gifts to unwrap." "Grandmama, wash my laundry."

-Kids telling them they did not want to go visit them.

-Parents complaining that my elderly parents who had had hip replacement and back surgeries did not want to get on the floor and play games with their kids.

I witnessed these dynamics. My parents were too old and tired and achey to put up with all that for more than a day or two.

Ask yourself honestly - how comfortable are you making your house for your parents to visit? Are your kids nice to them? Are you nice to them?

My parents visited the sister who provided a real bed in a real bathroom and who cooked good meals way more than the sister with the examples above. It wasn't because they loved one more than the other. It was because the guest conditions at one sibling's house were hellish and uncomfortable and the kids were often rude and there wasn't enough food but my sister got offended when they got their own food, etc. It just was not comfortable for them.[/quote]

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