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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Yes, I visit at least 2-3 times a week and usually bring my kids (we live fairly close now). My sister has also come, along with my aunt and cousin. (For being there 2 weeks, she's had a lot of company.)[/quote]
This is great ❤️
I echo the suggestion to find ways to get her out and about. It will be so good for her mind and body. I hate the DCUM mantra to just chuck people in a facility and let them rot because “they all say/do it,” or “they won’t remember.” People with dementia are still people, and as the newness of the facility wears off, it is natural that it feels confining. [/quote]

I posted already, but one thing that was suggested to us was to visited less for a while so she feels more of a push to form friendships where she doesn't get to run the show and has to exercise social skills. I wouldn't do this on my recommendation-every person is different, but just keep an open mind if a professional suggests it to you. It helped....A LOT. Things escalated with MIL when we first pulled back, but then she got connected enough that she liked being there and we didn't feel pressure to be her whole life. Plus she was easier to be around and it was fun to see her smiling more there. If we had to miss a visit once she was acclimated it wasn't a big deal. The staff shared some nice stories about her sometimes being a leader there, sometimes thinking she was back at work and these were her favorite coworkers, etc.[/quote]

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