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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can’t just put a functioning adult in a group home because they’re messy. You need to talk to her and find out what she wants. You’re really going about it all wrong and if I were her I’d never speak to you again. I’d start by hiring a housekeeper for your parents and have that person help your sister clean and organize her space. From there you might transition to an in law suite with the same housekeeper. If you’re concerned about what happens after they pass then build 2 in law suites. Keep the housekeeper on a regular basis. Establish a trust for the sister and use that money to pay for housekeeper. The 2nd apartment you can utilize to rent out and maybe do rent deduction if that person checks on your sister every day or 2. You need to think least restrictive means not most restrictive seeing a as she clearly has shown she can live alone. For right now see if you can talk her into doing a CNA course so she’s prepared to assist with parental care as parents age. She’s not useless and she’s not broken so stop viewing her that way and you’ll be better off. [/quote]

Wow. The person obviously cannot make their own money or keep their own health and the amount of work you've listed is huge. Maybe reflect on this a bit.  If this person never speaks to the OP again they will likely die or live out on the street.[/quote]

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