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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to put on your own oxygen mask first.  You raised your kids.  Do you have an expectation that they’ll live near you for the eventuality that you’ll need to be taken care of?  I’d bet that answer is no.

For some reason our parents generation seems to have this sense of entitlement and expectation that our generation exists only to make sure their needs are met as they age.  It’s incredibly selfish.  I’m living this now so I feel as though I have the right to this opinion.

There is no planning on their part and they refuse to make changes that would make their own lives easier so it falls on us.  I’d suggest if you’re planning a move to do it sooner than later because if you’re still in the local area when they start needing massive services you may be stuck, like many of us are.  Go live your life![/quote]

I’m sorry your parents haven’t planned well and have those expectations. My parents are the opposite. They are extremely appreciative when we help them and hire out for things like yard care and house cleaning. We have always been close and they helped when our kids were young and our kids are very close to them even now.

That being said, they’re not in a position to relocate and we accept that and agree that they’d be miserable. So for the time being, yes, we are staying nearby primarily because of them. Not everyone would make the same choice but we would not be at peace leaving my parents high and dry at this stage of their life.

We have also had multiple friends who moved then spent lots of time traveling back and forth due to a health issue with their parents. [/quote]

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