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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is he the eldest son? Usually the expectations are the the eldest son has the prime responsibility for caring for aging parents. Hence his guilt and sense of obligation.

I think it's reasonable to point out your concerns, especially for his health. But he'd still want to visit and that's a normal desire. What you don't want is the haphazard nature of these drop everything and go last minute trips. It's better to have regularly scheduled visits, say once a year or every other year, to see his parents. That way it's predictable and planned in advance, and he'd be visiting when they're in relative health, instead of during a crisis. And only go there unplanned when it's a true emergency.[/quote]

He does yearly travel as well. Did two every year but with their aging issues and his own health issues, only does one scheduled one and one whenever there is a crisis.[/quote]

This sounds like a very normal way for your DH to behave. You need to accept that you're married to a man who has family overseas and he loves them and cares about them.

Older people have emergencies. That's a fact of life. You can't dump all the unscheduled emergencies on the siblings, that isn't fair to them. Just because they live locally doesn't mean your DH is excused from doing a fair share. It's not their fault he moved away.[/quote]

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