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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anytime time my DH's parents get sick, he feels obliged to travel there. We've been married for 3 decades and he has done several emergency travels [b]even though three other siblings live there[/b] and one in UK but [b]somehow he is always cornered into doing it.[/b] One of his in-town sibling helps as she lives next door to parents and has inherited their house. All of parents expenses are paid my my DH and they have driver, maid and day/night caregivers coming.

I have no issue with him traveling or spending but he is getting old and its taking a toll on his health. Is there a good solution of this situation? He feels guilt of not being able to live and care for them but we obviously can't leave our lives, jobs and kids (even though they are grown) to move there and can't afford moving his parents here as full time caregiving and healthcare would kill our finances and probably marriage as well.[/quote]

Ok wait. Listen to yourself. The other siblings live there, and therefore they have to handle everything without any help from your DH? No. He chose to move away, and he's experiencing the consequences. He doesn't get to opt out of in-person caregiving. He's equally their child and he needs to do his share. That's not being "cornered". It's being a normal person. Normal people spend time with their parents and help as their parents get old.

There's not a "good solution" if your idea of a good solution is for him to never see his parents and have his siblings pick up his slack. You need to accept that he cares about his family and will spend time with them like a normal person does![/quote]

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