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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are afraid of the wrong thing. The problem is that he is already the father and will have the same rights whether you are never married or divorced. If he wants access he will get it. Do not tie yourself further to a man with anger issues because you’re worried about some mythical “stigma”. Guess what, you are going to be a parent now and you have to put the needs of the baby first. [b]If you were so “ashamed” of the idea of single motherhood you wouldn’t have been sleeping with someone to whom you were not married.[/b]

If this is very early and he does not know, get out now, move far away and never tell him. Do not put anything down on the birth certificate. If he does know, still move out and hopefully he will not want much contact and won’t contest you being the primary parent.

I’m a single mom with primary custody and I have a very cordial relationship with the father. No one has ever given me any kind of crap. Over the years, we have all realized that it was better never to have never married because the kids did not have to live through a divorce - we moved on to co-parenting well without the drama. If you are living in rural bumblef*ck where people say things like this, get out now and raise the kid somewhere where people don’t encourage women to stay in abusive relationships because “what will people think”?[/quote]

How did someone from 1885 get access to a computer and DCUM?[/quote]

Incorrect. I’m from 2025, it’s OP who is living in 1885 with the ideas of “shame”. If that is your worldview, then you need to embrace all the parts of it. We have control over our reproduction, and if you cannot fathom the idea of becoming pregnant in certain circumstances, you avoid those circumstances. If you live with the idea that sex is something that you enjoy and want to participate in, you have to be prepared to respond to an unanticipated pregnancy because no birth control is 100%.[/quote]

We really dont. Birth control fails all the time, and in many states in the US getting a viable abortion is basically impossible. You seem to be someone with a very rigid, almost Puritanical worldview, like some kind of caricature of a southern baptist. Maybe you grew up in rural bumf**k and that's why her concerns about judgement struck such a chord with you (you certainly talk like you did). But in 2025, most (educated) people dont have such a wildly judgemental and harsh view of pregnancy. Saying ANYONE who consents to sex should automatically be prepared for pregnancy is legit insane. [/quote]

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