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[quote=Anonymous]Do you want to try to remedy this or are you ready to break up? If the former, I'd just be really direct - friend, you keep flaking on plans with me and it's made me a little gun shy. Give her a chance to respond. Then see how it goes. I've been on the receiving end of that conversation and I've had it with others - and sometimes it's made a difference and sometimes not. Only you know if you want to try that route.

If you're just done, I'd say just stop making plans. When she suggests getting coffee either don't respond or tell her you're not available then - and don't propose something else. You don't have to give her a whole "it's not you it's me" conversation but you can just let plans die out - and see some time in the future if you want to try again.

I'll just say that one time, someone I barely knew at all gave me a talk like that - we'd only hung out twice, then I ran into an incredibly stressful period and wasn't available for another nine months or so. When I came up for air and reached out about getting together, she was basically like, I need people who are more reliable and available, thanks anyway. I was pretty stunned that someone I didn't know well at all was willing to say that without having any knowledge of what I'd been going through.

Anyway, I haven't run into her anywhere - I hope she's well, and also I feel like it was a real what the he** sort of thing to do, given the circumstances. So, just to say - perhaps she has things going on that you don't know about. Not that you need to accommodate that, but perhaps just be kind in your response whatever it is.
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