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[quote=Anonymous]I went through this. It was my DH pushing back on a second more than me but ultimately we wound up on the same page.

If we'd had more support or more money at the time (to pay for support) we would have done it. I had to mourn not having that second kid.

But I got past it and now I live our family of three and I enjoy all the upsides to being one and done. I get to experience all aspects of being a parent (except anything related to siblings) but it's easier and less expensive overall. I also think I have a unique relationship with my only that would not be possible if I had another. Not saying that's better -- if we had another I'd have a relationship with our second child and my kids would have a relationship with each other. But also DD and I would not have quite the same relationship and we have a very special bond that I love.

Also I used to be a bit insecure about only having one, and more defensive about my parenting (when you only have one you never really get to be the experienced parent because every new phase is new to you). But I'm not anymore. When people are critical of my parenting or dismissive because I "only" have one, I've learned to just let that go and realize that's not really about me.

I also have a good friend who is an only, has a fantastic relationship with her parents, and has served as a terrific example of what a family like this can look like. That's been so good for me, to help me accept my family as is and not view it as lacking in any way, just different. My friend loves being an only child.[/quote]

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