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[quote=Anonymous]I donated through an agency and now advise others to find a private match if they can because it allows you to get to know the recipient better on a personal level. You're right that agencies typically work with more than one embryo at a time. What I didn't understand at the start of my journey with this is how many people are looking for healthy embryos. Once you donate, however, you completely rely on the character of the recipient to uphold the intentions of your contract. The happiest donors I know took their time to find recipients they could really click with because hopefully you end up building a new branch of family. They didn't say too much about the relationship they wanted so they could get a better sense of the recipients. If you say everything about your values up front, people may just try to match you to be chosen.

There are best practice recommendations that the Donor Conceived People (DCP) community are hoping donors will take to heart. Generally their message is that everyone should have access to honest information about their genetic family from day one. They hope that anonymous donation will become illegal because many of them have suffered emotionally finding out their parents lied to them about their origins until adulthood or until they did their own genetic testing. There's a subreddit called AskaDCP where you can read and interact if you want to know more about their perspective.

There's a Facebook group called Embryo Donation (Donors Only) where you can learn a ton from other donors experiences all the way from potential donors grappling with wondering how it will feel to donate with different arrangements (closed to semi-open to open) to donors who generously share their experiences after having donated years ago.

On a personal note, I found it emotionally challenging to donate, but am so glad that I placed my embryos with a wonderful couple who are open to knowing us and committed to honesty with their children. When I see pictures and videos of my genetic children, they feel like what I imagine grandchildren feel like. Others compare the feeling to seeing a nephew. They are exactly as amazing as I knew they would be and I am thrilled that the children I am raising will get to meet them for the first time this year. [/quote]

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