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[quote=Anonymous]It's really hard to watch this dynamic unfold between two old people, OP. However, does he really need all the aids you've purchased for him right now? It may be best for him to continue using his muscles as long as possible.

My MIL has had Parkinson's for more than 20 years and has done extensive physical therapy to keep herself moving for as long as possible. Now she's at the stage where she can't safely be alone and standing. She needs a walker plus someone there at her elbow in case of falls. For outings, she uses a wheelchair. She needs help for her toilette. But for the longest time, her doctors advised her to stay independently active for as long as possible, so she could keep exercising her balance and muscles. 4 years ago, she was walking up the stairs to her 4th floor condo all by herself! Food-wise, she's lost a lot of weight, despite all our efforts to hire a cook from her homeland to make delicious little meals for her. We can't force her to swallow. She's lost her sense of taste and isn't hungry.

If you're correct and he really needs the aids, you've got a real problem on your hands to separate these two eventually (put your father in a home), or hopefully not separate them but force a rotating cast of aides into the house, so he can get adequate care from people other than his wife. Unfortunately he might end up falling and breaking something before his wife accepts the reality of his situation.

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