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[quote=Anonymous]You need to let your adult children be adults while living in your home. My advice is do not let them use a family car as they need their own or to use public transit.  Or do let them use the car on a set schedule to support work or other agreed on activities and do not ‘parent’ them by telling them it is too unsafe to use the car.  That determination is up to them.  As an adult there should be no ‘getting their way’ fights.  The adult can come and go as they please. They can use what ever you have agreed is a communal resource in the manner you have decided ahead of time.  If you have rules they need to follow them or you give them a month to move out.  No need for power struggles with an adult.  Let them live their life in your house and do not monitor and do not set ‘child like’ rules.  Do enforce agreed on boundaries/rules by having the adult move out if they can not follow these rules. But do keep the rules around possessions and treatment of the home not their schedule or behavior.  You do not want to fall into the role of parenting an adult as if they were a child.  Telling them what is safe and unsafe driving conditions is treating them like a child. [/quote]

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