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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your description of events is true, I'm here to remind everyone there is absolutely no comparison between a lifetime of snide comments/putdowns/bullying and one shake of the shoulders. She deserved it and more, OP.

My mother has that dynamic with one of her very self-important sisters. I have witnessed my aunt bully my mother, and once in a while my mother has enough and tells her off and they cut off contact for a while... but they always revert to their initial dynamic. My aunt is persuaded my mother is slow and stupid and that her affairs are de facto less important than hers.

Were you wrong? No, I don't think so, since you did not hurt her. Sometimes being physical with someone (but not injuring them) works much better at stopping their behavior than mere words.

But did it work? Apparently not. She persists, with a vengeance. So you should not do it again. She's not the type to be receptive to that approach. She may never change her opinion of you, whether you go low or go high (which is also why you don't need to apologize). Why? Because she has her own mental issues.

And that realization is liberating, OP! You don't need to worry about she does or thinks, or says. You said yourself that people closest to you believe you. So it's all FINE. If you are afraid of feeling uncomfortable, or being bullied again, you will have to be choosy about which family events you attend.  But that's all. Your sister will never change, and will never respect you as you wish. Live your life in consequence.

I suggest you find hobbies and friends, even though it may be hard for you to connect with others. My son is high-functioning autistic. His social outlet is a Dungeons and Dragons club at his university.

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Given their ages, there was not likely any long term bullying. The sister is only 26 and OP is 10 years older. What would a 10 year old be saying to a 20 year old? [/quote]

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