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[quote=Anonymous]My childhood friend has her two adult children living at home with her I can only imagine indefinitely and it’s her doing.

Her oldest is 34 and the same age as my daughter.  They attended High School together and he was incredibly high achieving and graduated salutatorian and went to a distinguished 4 year university.  Graduated, moved back home and has never left or worked again.

He has some mental health issues but his parents refuse to set any boundaries or expectations and they just allowed him to spiral. My friend babies him and he just sits in the attic on his computer 24/7 gaining weight and getting more and more depressed.  My friend does everything for him from laundry to cooking. A vicious cycle of his self esteem plummeting.

My similar aged daughter struggled with mental health in college too.  She ended up dropping out and moving back home.   We put her in therapy and told her she needed to find a job but we’d support her with getting to and from therapy and work.   About 6 months of therapy and a minimum wage paying job and she was ready to go back to school.  Stayed with us while finishing up and graduated a year late but is now doing great.  Good career, married with kids.

My friend complains constantly about not having grandkids but how does she expect it when she keeps her kids perpetually children?

I think the root is her @$$h*le husband.  He’s emotionally unavailable so she keeps her kids close so she doesn’t feel useless or lonely. [/quote]

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