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[quote=Anonymous]The phrase I’ve used for a long time is that we are all just “parenting around the margins.” Our kids are who they are. We can not be abusive, which has the potential to screw them up. But other than that, we aren’t making huge changes to who our kids are.

For the PP who talked about “giving up.” I don’t think that is the right term. But there is some ROI work to do to figure out what helps. I have a kid who will never do a sport, but she does dance and musical theater which gives her some exercise. She is never going to be a superstar at dance or musical theater, but she likes it. She has some inattentive ADHD, and I do help her stay focused on homework. I also send her to mathnasium which has really helped her. That said, her processing speed is horrifically slow and I know I can never change that. She is going to have to find a career path wheeler that isn’t a gate. She is in middle school and we already talk about things like finding study partners in college to help her stay on task.

For my kid with profound intellectual disability, I am just focused on making her safe and relatively happy. That means she watches TV all day supervised. It is fine. She will end up in an intermediate care facility. “Screen time” is the least of her problems.

I’m not sacrificing all personal time to maximize my kids’ potential. That would be silly. I also don’t push them to do things they don’t enjoy. Piano and violin are not critical to one’s existence, nor is a sport. I would seriously consider dropping some things that your kids just aren’t that into. [/quote]

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