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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here: I totally don't want any control over ex's life. None. But as a parent I want the best for my kid and worry about what ex is doing only in that context.
With respect to "I trusted him before, so trust him now". My trust was gone long ago. [b]I know he will not physically harm the kid[/b] (at least directltly), but I also know he brought me into his kids life with no conversations with them, just left them hanging on their own to figure out what it means. They had hard time with it and I did too. And I was the one trying to prevent indecent things from happening and worrying about the effect on his children. I have reasons to be concerned that this new gf is not going to be like that. [/quote]

You simply need to let go on some things.  Despite both your issues the father is a competent parent.  Period.  End of story.  When your child is with their father, they are with their father.  It may be nice if he did share things with you but his not doing so is a non-issue & there's nothing actionable here.  Often after divorce there is not good communication because its too hard to do so.  With divorce nothing is perfect.  OP, are you giving your ex regular updates on your dating/ love life?  Are you getting pre-approval from your ex for anyone that you may introduce to your child?  I would say what is harmful to the child is putting he/she in the middle of to parents that do not communicate-- and then trying to pull tidbits of information out of them.  Who was your father with, etc., etc.?  [/quote]

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