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[quote=Anonymous]Context: we had an enormous fight in court a few years ago, my kid (now 7) lives with me and has court ordered visitation with dad that amounts to half of school holidays, plus we agree sometimes to additional weekend visitations. Dad leaves a few hours driving time from DC.
Last visitation dad brought his new girl (I found out from friends after the fact), and it appears they all shared the room in the hotel with my kid, though ex didn't respond to my questions about this. I didn't know anything about her until then. 
I was so not ready for my son to get exposed to something like this. But some people say I should just get used to it.
And as for my kid's reaction - so far he hasn't spoken about her at all. But he had meltdowns the day he returned and every day after that for almost a week. He wants us back together (which is what most kids want, I get it). He seems ok now, but I haven't seen him so upset for a long time. He is generally a very happy kid.
Other considerations - ex is constantly lying about everything to me, always has. I have to keep records about everything to manage through this. Visitations has always been problematic. Every time there is something lost, damaged, or not returned - clothing, sport items (skis), homework assignments, etc. Every time he is late when he returns the child. He is absolutely terrible on support payments, and he is lying about sending out checks or arranging payments through banks and telling me something just didn't go through. My kid wants to see him, that's true. But it's usually a real challenge, not only emotionally, but logistically and physically. 
What do I do?[/quote]

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